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are you going to do it in 2025?

anything that you focus your mind onto is achievable because you are capable of anything!

so plan for this year. think of the things that you want to do, that you need to do, that will help you become the highest version of yourself. do the things without being affected by being lazy for just a day! you are more than your mood!

this is your era. 2025 is going to be your year. so act like it. make your younger self proud.

don’t do the same things year after year because if you put in the effort, you WILL see results. there isn’t anything stopping you. so get after it.

let 2025 be the year that you actually believe this. sending good vibes and positivity your way <3

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21 Hidden Motivations Behind Why Women Cheat

Yes, yes, yes!

Only thing I can add to this is telling yourself "I will do x", where x is something that is somewhat inconvenient. The point of x is doing it because it sucks and is inconvenient. Doing this wont just build dicipline, it also shows your brain that you're loyal, which builds up trust, and eventually self esteem. X also shouldn't be a large thing, and can be a series of things.

RECLAIMING DISCIPLINE CAN LOOK LIKE:

• keeping small + manageable promises to yourself daily

• healing your attention span (ex: reading books, watching movies without scrolling, letting yourself be bored)

• moving from "I'll try" to "I will"

• reframing pain + difficulty as often where the growth happens

• showing up as the person you want to be

• making mindful & nourishing choices VS choices that result in instant gratification

I have a deep appreciation for people who take care and responsibility for their own health. I have huge admiration for those who pour into themselves and create balance so that their mental wellbeing is a priority. I have loving respect for anyone I care for who doesn’t cause me to continually worry about their physical, mental and spiritual health so that I too can balance the love I have for you with the love I need for me.

The human experience is far too nuanced to have strong opinions.

"You can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them." — Shonda Rhimes

You don’t need to be more loveable—just more YOU.

Being in a constant state of rebranding is exhausting.

Life just isn’t that serious

To believe that people will remain unchanged is to stifle your own potential for growth.

10 FACTS OF BEING A TEENAGER

1. You’re going to take pictures that you will blush at in five years.

2. You’re going to sing sappy teenage ballads all alone in your room when no one else is home.

3. Nobody keeps their middle school friends forever

4. You’re going to dream of finally getting out of your town, and you’re going to miss it when you leave.

5. You’re going to fall in and out of love, and one day you might really figure out what that word means.

6. You’re going to run from the police

7. Your opinions of people will change once you get to know them.

8. You’re never going to finish ALL your homework.

9. You’re going to cry and maybe, just maybe, need a hug from your mom.

10. You’re going to be on your own once in a while.

source: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/30/27-truths-about-being-a-teenager_n_3799496.html

Know Your "No."

Being an Old on Tumblr, I'm often down the rabbit hole of youthful angst and despair, especially from young women who don't know who/how to be in the world and are looking for answers in moodboards, trends, and memes. And listen — that doesn't end. It's why we have mid-life crises.

It's better to figure out your "no."

You gotta know your line. Your absolutely the fuck not.

Here's why...

Sometimes that "no" is hiding under a "yes." It's the guy who A1 d*ck who talks to you like shit. The high-paying job/competitive college program that stresses you the fuck out. The "Baddie" aesthetic that includes shoes you can't fucking walk in. You get what you want but because you didn't define what you didn't want, you're telling yourself this is fine.

When you start with Absolutely the fuck not, you free yourself up for exploration.

You put less pressure on yourself to have all the answers because as long as you don't see the Absolutely the fuck not, you can be guided by curiosity.

"Huh. What's over there? Let's try that on and see what happens."

No matter what your fave influencer says, you learn about life by living. You make a choice, it goes well, you learn what you like. You make a choice, it doesn't go well, you learn what you don't like. Rinse and repeat. This, and only this, is how you "figure it out." By doing.

When you pinpoint your Absolutely the fuck not, you trust that anything — no matter how good it looks on the outside — that requires you to do what you absolutely do not want to do is not for you.

Everything else? Fair game.

The UK’s biggest ever online test into stress, undertaken by the BBC’s Lab UK and the University of Liverpool, has revealed that rumination is the biggest predictor of the most common mental health problems in the country.

Since our childhood we all know how to dream. Asleep and awake. Thanks to the power of our imagination we believe we are capable of achieving anything we can dream of. However, as we grow older we lose this wonderful ability we'll later need to be creative, to innovate, to change our lives and to transform our organisations. We invite you to dare to dream again, to challenge your comfort zone, and to enjoy the pleasure of turning your dreams into reality.Do you dare to dream?

Great video on power poses, change your posture can boost testosterone and confidence within 2 mins!

If 70 percent of an iceberg is underwater - how many cultural cues do we overlook?

http://bridgeconsultants.info/2014/03/18/many-cultural-cues-overlook/

Success doesn't stay in one place.

Some days it's nailing a presentation at work.

Other days it's not yelling at the barista for getting your order wrong.

Success isn't some grand finale. It's the little wins that make your day.

If you're still chasing that one moment where everything falls into place, let that go.

You're the only one who gets to define your success.

Earlier this week I hit 150 days straight on my goal app. This little app has helped me so much when it comes to getting things done and reminding myself to take time for me. 150 days isn’t too many when it’s over the year, but I haven’t missed a day since I started using it. Finch has really given me a sense of consistency and success. (Not sponsored, I just really love this app.) So congratulations to me! I’m making so much progress and doing well.

How Childhood Trauma Can Show Up In Adulthood

Childhood trauma can have a deep and lasting impact on your development, some scenarios we would not even consider to be " trauma" but it comes down to how you as a child perceived the situation. To add to that, you could have had a great childhood factually, or by your understanding, because it is all you knew. I’ll give you an example, do you find yourself putting everyone else before you? Maybe when you were little you had an experience with a parent where they put someone else before you in a situation that was significant to you at the time, and that feeling got registered in your subconscious. Maybe you got rewarded for the experience or reprimanded. It could have been very harmless. You may not even remember unless you start to think about it. None the less the root of a lot of our triggers, habits and insecurities boil down to our childhood experiences, that stay buried in our subconscious and often manifesting in various ways during adulthood.

You have a have a hard time controlling your feelings. You might get super angry or not feel anything at all.

You are scared to fail.

You blame yourself for your mistakes and bad choices from your past and have a hard time forgiving yourself.

You worry about what other people think about you or in general and may feel scared a lot.

You are too clingy or too distant and cant find a balance.

You don't trust yourself to make decisions and need constant validation or someone else to make decisions for you.

You feel really sad and down most of the time.

You suffer from negative self talk, are very hard on yourself and really believe those things to be true.

You constantly criticize others.

You need external validation to feel accepted.

You are always anxious.

You are hypersensitive to criticism.

You are terrified of change.

You find it hard to take compliments and truly believe you are not worthy.

You find it hard to keep good relationships because you're scared of getting hurt and feel like you cant get close to others.

You try to be perfect and want to do everything perfectly because you think it will help avoid bad things from happening.

You might eat too much or too little because you are feeling bad or want to control things.

You can't stop thinking about bad stuff that happened before and might have nightmares or feel like they're living it again.

You may feel like they're not really in their body or like things around them aren't real because of what happened in the past.

You avoid things because they remind you of bad stuff that happened.

Sometimes people stay away from things that remind them of bad stuff that happened.

You might have more health problems like headaches or stomachaches.

You do things that hurt you or others, and you don't even realize it because you learned it from when you were young.

You might work extra hard to be successful because you want others to like you or because you don't feel good about yourself.

You rather be alone because you feel embarrassed or worried about what others think.

You try really hard to control everything in your life.

You water yourself down and put everyone else before you.

entering in my nyc rich girl era..

i’m learning another language

i’m shopping at the best stores

i’m using the best skincare products for my face and body

i’m eating the best, nutritious foods

i’m traveling to the hottest locations

i’m buying quality over quantity

i’m working out daily (pilates, barre, cycling)

i’m reading classic literature

i’m looking model ready

i’m dressing up for every occasion, big or small

i’m being high maintence

i’m in touch with high-end fashion

i’m meeting high profile individuals

i’m creating luxury around me

i’m working on a successful brand

i’m drinking the nicest champagne

i’m getting my weekly and monthly beauty treatments

i’m spoiling myself with whatever i want, whenever i want it