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i think when some of you say "neurodivergent" you just mean adhd and autism

man why do white people have to appropriate our guys its not like y'all dont have your own guys

Stuck.

(it’s 2am, and according to your therapist, you have “a whopping case of ADHD”

just fucking with some dinosaurs. some raw forces of nature

depression tips™

shower. not a bath, a shower. use water as hot or cold as u like. u dont even need to wash. just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. sit on the floor if you gotta.

moisturize everything. use whatever lotion u like. unscented? dollar store lotion? fancy ass 48 hour lotion that makes u smell like a field of wildflowers? use whatever you want, and use it all over. 

put on clean, comfortable clothes. 

put on ur favorite underwear. cute black lacy panties? those ridiculous boxers u bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? put em on.

drink cold water. use ice. if u want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

clean something. doesn’t have to be anything big. organize one drawer of ur desk. wash five dirty dishes. do a load of laundry. scrub the bathroom sink. 

blast music. listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

make food. don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. take the time and make food. even if it’s ramen. add something special to it, like a hard boiled egg or some veggies. prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something. 

make something. write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. even if you don’t think you’re good at it.

go outside. take a walk. sit in the grass. look at the clouds. smell flowers. put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

call someone. call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. talk to a stranger on the street. have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. if you can’t, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. even if you don’t say much, listen to them.

cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. take pictures of them. talk to them. tell them how u feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out.

if there's a stairway to heaven is there also a stairway to hell or is it an elevator that breaks down and traps you 10 times in the way.

"homosexuality is unnatural! there's only two genders! it's a sin-"

I'm sorry, have you seen NATURE???

and there's so many more species than this that exhibit homosexuality, varying genders, etc. SO! MANY!

it's very much a natural thing. it always has been. unfortunately, while homosexuality is found in many species, homophobia is only found in one

I just need the magic button that lets me focus to be sitting on my desk instead of floating around in space randomly getting pressed by asteroids it bumps into

he's very excited about his first night as a jack o lantern

Greek Mythology has a few more I'd like to add:

- Athena, goddess of wisdom (among other things)

- Tyche, goddess of fortune and prosperity

- Elpis, spirit of hope

- the 3 Fates

so there’s a dynamic that is at least true in my life and might be part of a much broader trend. I don’t know for sure whether this is widely applicable but I wanna throw it out there in case it is, or in case it just makes sense to others in some way that is useful.

the dynamic is this:

when I’m in spaces of predominately disabled people, and/or spaces in which accessibility is at the forefront of people’s minds, there is a default assumption that everyone is doing their best to be kind, and that our interpretation of others body language, manner of communication, etc. should always err on the side of assuming they are being genuine and engaged to the best of their ability, that there is nothing malicious going on.

In contrast, when i am in more general settings (esp places that do not forefront disability and accessibility) there is a default assumption that any atypical way of behaving or communicating indicates some level of negative emotion or underlying social/interpersonal tension.

I got thinking about this after I saw that post where a HoH person was mentioning someone immediately getting angry and defensive towards them for not hearing them and then immediately becoming apologetic when they were informed the person was deaf in one ear. And in the notes someone was defending the initial reaction of anger by saying that the person probably assumed they were being deliberately ignored.

It got me thinking about other things like this. I remember in middle school getting a quiz that was a blank seating chart and we needed to write down the full names of everyone in our class and where they sat. I stayed after class and asked if I could have extra credit to make it up because I have a very bad memory and do not remember names easily. The teacher told me that not remembering people’s names meant I did not respect them and that I needed to care about other people. I burst into tears having this stated so plainly that my inability was interpreted as cruelty.

I was thinking about how my wife is autistic and for her it takes conscious effort to make facial expressions and prefers to use as few words as possible to conserve that specific kind of energy. And I was thinking about how many stories she has of people assuming she didn’t want to be someone’s friend or was being passive aggressive or something just because she didn’t overly emote or because she used few words or texted K instead of “okay!! ☺️” or whatever.

I was thinking about how often physical inability to do things is cast as “laziness” and laziness carries the implication of feeling entitled to others’ work. I think about visibly physically disabled people who (for example) complain about service workers discriminating against them (e.g. a driver refusing to provide service when someone has a service dog or wheelchair) where people readily assume the disabled person holds a feeling of superiority and entitlement towards workers.

I was thinking about how the inability to pronounce things or to do certain tasks is immediately assumed to mean “not caring about” those things. The idea that if someone cancels last second due to a pain flare up or a mental illness trigger that they are enacting a deliberate cruelty towards the friend they cancelled on.

And then I was thinking about how…

disabled people who are not adept at the way that able society functions with a default assumption of malice are often bullied or made fun of specifically because they assume good faith from other people by default.

Someone asks them out and they assume the person is being honest because their default is to assume good faith. Someone asks them what they mean when they say a common word and they give an in-depth explanation about what it means and everyone laughs because “obviously we know what it means, we were just fucking with you.” Someone asks a question and they assume they want to know the answer to the question, and then find out it was a trick question or a social test and there was already a “right answer” and “wrong answer.” Someone doesn’t respond to them so they repeat their question over again, or write it down and give it to them, or try to find alternate means to communicate, and then the person says “I dont want to talk to you, take the hint!”

Like there just seems to be this dynamic at play where broad accessibility really does require an effort to assume good faith and default to kindness, but functioning in the rest of the world requires constant suspicion and always looking for ways in which people might be trying to be mean for some reason.

And I do think that in scenarios like the HoH person described in that post, where the only information someone has is that they said something and the other person didn’t respond—of course after a lifetime of people being mean we might suspect someone being mean, but like if we have to choose one default or the other with a stranger—why can’t the default be assuming good faith? Like can’t we please be kind as our default? I feel like adapting to a default of assuming unkindness and social tricks should not be expected of disabled people. This is something where rest of the culture needs to make an effort adapt to defaulting to kindness and patience.

Sure maybe someone is being an asshole, but you don’t have to be. if you assume someone just didn’t hear you and repeat yourself or write it down and someone is mean to you about it, you didn’t do anything wrong! The person being an asshole (about you simply trying to communicate and assuming kindness) is clearly the one messing up that social interaction. We should all give each other grace.

Kids Online Safety Act (KOSA) 2022.

definition from sentate: “the kids online safety act (KOSA) empowers kids and their parents to take over kids’ online experiences to protect their health and well-being”.

now, if you’re from the UK or any other country that’s not revolves around the US, you may not have an idea of what’s going on- like i did.

one of my anon’s sent a message to me last night, it was the 🦈 anon to be specific. and the message read “if KOSA gets passed, goodbye, you were my favourite blog.”

now when i first read the message i thought they were talking about another blog for a second, and i was a little confused. then, i decided to google what KOSA is.

KOSA is a bill that tried to get recognition back in 2022 that is focused on monitoring the internet of children. now, in 2023 it’s been re-introduced with some terrifying adaptations.

if the KOSA (2022) bill was to be accepted then:

-> filters would be installed to wipe the internet of anything that deemed ‘inappropriate’ for minors, which would silence them from accessing materials regarding suicidal prevention and LGBTQ+ content.

-> it would KOSA the power to shut down websites that discuss race, religion, sexuality- basically retract free speech and only allow access to content they approve of.

-> age verification and parental monitoring tools will be expanded and enhanced which are not only invasive, but can silence innocent victims of abusive environments for reaching out and finding help.

this whole bill is a sick and twisted way of trying to silence the younger generation, and attempt to stop them from seeking out the truth in the government’s lies and to have a voice in this world.

well, we’re not going down without a fight!

sign letters to oppose KOSA -> link here!

sign petitions here -> link here.

i’ve signed both! now it’s your turn <3

we deserve privacy to be who we are in a world that would rather kill us then listen to what we have ton say.

The world is so hostile to tweens.....

Like we joke about how our schools growing up would ban the latest toy trends, but that reality genuinely horrific when you think about it. Like maybe 1% of the bans were based on safety, but the rest cited reasoning like

-"kids were bartering for collectibles" (kids learning about economics and product value)

-"kids were wearing them and the colors were too flashy" (kids experimenting with self expression and fashion)

-"kids were playing with them during lunch and recess instead of using our rusted safety hazard playground" (kids utilizing their free time to do what helps *them* unwind).

Play areas specifically geared towards children and especially towards teens are constantly being shut down. "Oh kids today are always on their phones!" Maybe because

-there are barely any arcades left and even less arcades that aren't adult-oriented,

-public pools and gyms are underfunded and shut down,

-"no loitering" laws prevent kids and teens from just hanging out,

-movie theatres only play the latest films and ticket prices are only rising,

-parks and playgrounds are either neglected or replaced with gear only directed at toddlers and unsuitable for anyone older

-genuine children's and young teen media is being phased out in favour of media directed only at very small children or older teens and adults.

-suburbs and even cities are becoming more and more hostile to pedestrians, it's just not safe for kids to walk to or ride their bikes to their friends' houses or other play destinations

Children's agency is hardly ever respected. Kids between the ages of 9-13 are either treated as babies or as full-grown adults, with no in-between. When they ask to be given more independence, they are either scoffed at or given more responsibilities than are reasonable for a child their age.

This is even evident in the fashion scene.

Clothing stores and brands like Justice and Gap are either closing or rebranding to either exclusively adult clothing or young children's clothes, with no middle ground for tweens. Tweens have to choose between clothes designed for adults that are too large and/or too mature for their age and bodies, or more clothes they feel are far too childish. For tween girls especially it's either a frilly pinafore dress with pigtails or a woman's size dress with cleavage. No wonder tween girls these days dress like they're older, it's because their other option is little girl clothes and they don't want to feel childish.

And then when tweens go to school, the books they want to read aren't available because they cover "mature" topics (read: oh no two people kissed and they weren't straight or oh no menstruation was mentioned or oh no a religion other than Christianity is depicted), so kids are left with books for way below their reading level. No wonder kids today are struggling with literacy, it's because they can't exercise and expand their reading skills with age-appropriate books. Readers need to be challenged with new words and concepts in order to grow in their skills, only letting tween read Dr. Seuss and nursery rhymes doesn't let them learn.

Discussions about substance use, reproduction, and sexuality aren't taught at an age-appropriate level in school or even by children's parents, so they either grow up ignorant and more vulnerable to abuse, or they seek out information elsewhere that is delivered in a less-than-age-appropriate manner. It shouldn't be a coin-toss between "I didn't know what sex was until I was 18 and in college" or "my first exposure to sex as a tween was through porn" or "I didn't know what sex was so I didn't know I was being sexually abused as a kid."

Tweenhood is already such a volatile and confusing time for kids, their bodies are changing and they're transitioning from elementary to middle to high school. It's hard enough for them in this stage, but it's made worse by how society devalues and fails them.

We talk about the disappearance of teenagehood, and maybe that's gonna happen in the future, but the erasure of tweenhood is happing in real time, and it's having and going to have major consequences for next generation's adults.

I have multiple friends with severe food restrictions and a mother who was sensitive to dairy, soy, and gluten. The amount of frustration that I have seen them forced to go through, and the amount of tears I've seen them shed because even though they did EVERYTHING in their power to contact the allergy person there still isn't food they can eat and now they're forced to subsist on potato chips for the next 6 hours. The amount of PURE JOY when there's GOOD food that they can actually eat.

I'm fortunate enough to be able to eat what I want. Many times they get the part of my meal they can eat because they can't eat the other 2/3 and I don't want them to go hungry. I know they would, they're so used to being disappointed and hungry. It breaks my heart to see them like this. Also it's SO FREAKING EXPENSIVE to get special allergy friendly products. Like double the cost for bread. It's horrifying.

the uncommon allergy haver to anticapitalist pipeline

With @staff 's recent post saying 1/4 of this site is LGBTQ going around, I'd like to see what the actual demographic is

So!

Please reblog for bigger sample size!

take a couple deep breaths! also, have you eaten in the last couple hours?

Darkling is like that one roach that won't die no matter how much you spray it istg.

-A friend

“I have a mental illness”= generic, vulnerable, people judge you for it

“My bloodline is cursed to fight unseen demons”= heroic, fairy tale-esque, too weird to be open for further questioning

Could you maybe reblog this post if you think respecting trans peoples' names and identities is a basic right and not a political opinion?

No pressure. Just seeking some validation of my sentiment. Due to some. people

Crowtober days 4, 5, & 6

I've gotten behind in posting these due to school, but I have been drawing them

Crowtober day 4: Skill

3 bullseyes, soon to be 4

Jesper remains undefeated (of course)

Crowtober day 5: Waffles

If he lived Matthias went and bought a heart shaped waffle iron as soon as he got his money

Crowtober day 6: Ship

Ship on a ship 🖤

@crowtoberchallenge

Crowtober day 3: Witch

the Corpse Witch and the Storm Witch

(I know Zoya isn't a crow but she's in CK so shhhh)

It took some effort, but Nina being Nina, she managed to convince Zoya to wear the hat

Zoya still refused to wear the dress Nina picked out, and found her own

Nikolai and Genya are loving it

@crowtoberchallenge

Crowtober day 2: Tea

Jesper is highly amused by using the Van Eck teacups for target practice, fabrikating them back together, and repeating the process.

Wylan is happy to let him.

@crowtoberchallenge

Crowtober day 1: Pumpkin

Inej was in town and thought Kaz's office needed a bit of spice

Don't try and tell me inej doesn't leave gifts on the windowsill

@crowtoberchallenge

Six of Crows inspired prompt list! Every form of art is welcome, just have fun! 💕

Every reblog is very appreciated so you can help this prompt list spread. DMs are open if you have any questions. Thank you in advance to everyone who will join this challenge!

Starts the 1st of October!

Remember to tag @crowtoberchallenge and #crowtober2021 so I can share your post in this blog!

Listen up!

You see a post like this? Where OP might hurt/kill themselves? You hit that button that I circled

Hit that.

Click Suicide or Self-harm Concern

Yes.

Fill in the rest of it, and hit submit. The "content you reported" will fill itself in

Tumblr will follow up and help them.

Warning: this is only for mobile. If anyone knows how to do this for desktop, please add it!

This could SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE.

YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO REBLOG THIS.

I DON'T GIVE A FUCK IF IT DOESN'T GO WITH YOUR BLOG'S THEME.

And yes, REBLOG. Liking does no shit at all. This isn't ig.

You reblog, people see it. You don't, people don't see it. This shit's that simple.

This could save someone's life. It's not a joke.

I got bored during classes today so here's some Entrapta doodles

To any suicidal followers I may have: This is a sign to not kill yourself. You are loved and the world is special because you are in it. Keep holding on.

Reblog this when it’s on your dash. You will save someone’s life.